It's None of Your Business

How many of you have gone to a family reunion or get-together with friends and then they asked you why are you still single or when you will have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? If you are in a relationship, how many of you were asked when will you get married? And then asked when you will  have kids? And so on and so forth, it just doesn't stop.

They will definitely ask what you don't have.

How frustrating, isn't it?

We're living in a world were people expect you to do something or be something or have something just because of their old mentality or beliefs. Or maybe they just don't have anything to talk with you about so they ask senseless things. 

I said senseless. Yes, because they don't think before they utter those words. We too were like that before. But we now try to be more sensitive with other people’s feelings.

Don't they know that when they ask you when you’ll have a partner, you might be praying all your life just to have a girlfriend/boyfriend? What if you were just rejected? Or maybe you just recently broke up with your ex and that you are still hurting. Or you have been in a lot of failed relationships and still waiting for the right one to come? Or maybe you just don’t want to be in a relationship at all. Or maybe you already have one but just don’t want to share it to the world. You don’t have to, by the way.

And then when you are already together, they will then ask when you’ll get married. Maybe you believe in it but is just waiting for your partner to ask you. I respect those who believe in the sanctity of marriage, but don't get me wrong, not everyone wants to get married. Maybe you don't believe in it. Maybe you have family members or friends who got married but are now separated. Or you know people who aren't married but are very happy together. It's not a guarantee, you know.

And the most insensitive of all is to ask a couple when they will have a baby. Do you think they have an answer to that? Have you ever thought if that couple has been trying since they got together? What if they are going through something and are doing all their best to conceive? Don't you know how sad and hurtful that would be? And what if they really don't have plans to have one? Would you require them to have a baby? Tsk tsk..

I hope we STOP asking people these questions. Let's stop hurting their feelings or meddling with their lives. They might not show it at the time you ask them, they might even joke for an answer, but I'm 100% sure they are somehow irritated or hurt.

We do not know what other people are going through. So let's just be sensitive to their feelings. Whatever they want and whatever their plans are, it's none of our business.