Blame Game

I’ve had some realizations over the past few months and I would say learned more about how human behaves.

Let me start with the common saying when someone farted (please excuse my example but that is what came first to my mind 😊)   “whoever talks first is the one guilty”.
If you are the culprit, tendency is you want to clear your name as one of the suspects. Since you know someone will smell it, you speak first and complain about the smell. The truth is, the others have not smelled it yet. And since you brought that out, they become conscious and finally realized the foul smell in the air.

There is also a very recent incident of theft in the store where someone I know is working. One of the staffs claimed that her money was stolen. She voluntarily asked the guard to inspect her bag and other belongings and asked for spare coins so she can go home.

And after a few minutes, the other co-worker checked his wallet too and found out that his money is missing! And so everyone was asked to show all their bags and get inspected. After interviews and thorough investigations, in the end, it was the first one who took the money.

That is the common scenario if you are doing something wrong or unacceptable to others. To clear your name, you tend to create stories that would make others bad and will give you reasons to defend whatever it is you are doing.

You seem to think about a lot of things when you are guilty of something.. worse, you tend to pass the blame to other people.

Whatever it is, please refrain from blaming others of your acts. And please do not include other people to make whatever it is you are doing to be legit. Or better yet, don’t do whatever wrong it is that you are doing. Please.. stop it!

"What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie than of Sally. Remember that.”